It is the period where you are sinking way too deep into your own emotional misery, your own insecurities, your own negativity, and your own comfort. For most people, living inside the cocoon is a mind (& body) numbing experience. I am without a doubt a regular in that place. Sometimes I take a peak, smile, and leave swiftly without any concerns because I know that this isn't a place for me, and sometimes I just walk in, observe the surroundings, feel the atmosphere, and lay on that cocoonish couch for the longest time.
The cocoon is my sanctuary of thoughts. Negative thoughts. Thoughts that will constantly take me into a different dimension. A dimension in the past, or in the future. Either way both extremes of that dimension... Do NOT exist. As much as the fabric and complexion of the cocoon seems like a mesmerizing, yet beautiful exterior, what lies beneath these coutures, is an aura that is so infectious that it will consume you for as long as you stay in that cocoon.
Sometimes I just walk into the cocoon and lay on the bed of emotional comfort and begin to roll from side to side, sinking deeper... And deeper... And deeper... And deeper... Into an emotional journey fueled by thought. The kind of thought that wanders around my brain's frontal lobe. The kind of thought that questions reality. The kind of thought that twists my imagination.
With the aura lying around the inner lining of the cocoon acting as a catalyst to such a soothing, yet unreal environment, I am consumed by my imagination that is being lead by unauthentic thought. Seeing that I have given myself the correct amount of suffering on the bed, I shift my location inside my cocoon to the dining room as I walk in hunger for more unhealthy emotions. The starvation for these emotions is one of hate, the inability to forgive, the lack of acceptance, and the sadness. And as I sit on that dinner table waiting for my meal to cook, I smell the scent of indecision, low self esteem, deprived health, and insanity.
There is absolutely no doubt, that I am going to enjoy my dinner served warm as it is my fave dish for the evening: Tears.
Though SOMETIMES, the cocoon becomes a painful numbing experience to the point that you will start to awaken. You will start to look around and see through every single wall, every single shape, every single object in that place... And when you do so, you will realize that the cocoon is your own perception and illusion. It is simply a story your own mind makes up to soothe you so that you can avoid pain when in reality you are BECOMING part of the pain.
It's time to wake up, and I choose to live with passion. I choose to make this cocoon perish into nonexistance as nonexistant it already is.
I choose reality.
I choose life... With a smile :)
Monday, August 16, 2010
Monday, June 7, 2010
No pain, No Gain = No Power yo!!
Throughout my life, my ego had always complained about how hard things are especially if I wanted to accomplish something. I would complain to my family, my friends, my professors back in University years, or even to myself. These complaints always ended with "dude, no pain, no gain".
That very phrase ticked my ego off every single time it was mentioned. I never understood why. Well, I understood why it bothered my ego, and that was because it tried to stop it from growing by telling it to shut up. But that's another topic. It ticked ME off because I felt that every single thing I wanted to achieve in my life had to have pain involved.
Is that true? Is every achieving anything life a result of PAIN?! Is pain involved in any process? Is it mandatory that we feel that way if we want to reach our goals or become successful in any area of our lives?
For years and years I had battled through every process and tried to find out if all these questions were true. Year after year, goal after goal, I was convinced that that belief was true. It became part of my subconscious to the point that the instant the thought of success and achievement sprung in my mind, the next thought was immediately "PAIN". Isn't it amazing how our minds learn so fast in applying patterns? That by itself was a pattern of thought which lead to a certain emotion, and hence killed the original thought.
Could it be? Could it simply be true that I am going to have pain inflicted on me every single time I want to achieve success? And who was going to inflict that pain anyway?
The answer was simple: It was not true. It is only true if I had chosen to think that way. And if that was the case, then the person inflicting pain on me is no other than myself, my thoughts, my mind. It is a choice. We choose to believe or think in a certain way.
It hit me hard today that the belief "NO PAIN NO GAIN" is a very disempowering belief. 50% of the words used in that belief are negation words. 25% is a negative term. This leaves only 25% of the belief remaining positive i.e. GAIN.
Where is power in that? How can you empower yourself that way?
One of the main factors to change and positivity is the wording we use. If we constantly use negation vocabulary, then we are training our mind to live by them. However, if we constantly use vocabulary in the positive sense, then we are training our minds to live by positive ways & means.
The second thing which makes that belief very disempowering is that it is linking pain to achievement and success in our lives. The most successful people around the globe have constantly mentioned that we MUST enjoy the process. Part of enjoying the process is linking pleasure to the process itself and letting go of the outcome.
Just. Have. Fun.
One of the awesome things you could do is be flexible. Being stiff is not going to help you achieve your goals. Watch the video below and you will know what I mean.
The more flexible you are, the more acceptant you will be of any circumstances according around you which could be perceived as "PAIN". This will enable you to become proactive and not reactive to anything.
Imagine how things would be as you linked them to pleasure. I'll leave you with that imagination and let you decide.
That very phrase ticked my ego off every single time it was mentioned. I never understood why. Well, I understood why it bothered my ego, and that was because it tried to stop it from growing by telling it to shut up. But that's another topic. It ticked ME off because I felt that every single thing I wanted to achieve in my life had to have pain involved.
Is that true? Is every achieving anything life a result of PAIN?! Is pain involved in any process? Is it mandatory that we feel that way if we want to reach our goals or become successful in any area of our lives?
For years and years I had battled through every process and tried to find out if all these questions were true. Year after year, goal after goal, I was convinced that that belief was true. It became part of my subconscious to the point that the instant the thought of success and achievement sprung in my mind, the next thought was immediately "PAIN". Isn't it amazing how our minds learn so fast in applying patterns? That by itself was a pattern of thought which lead to a certain emotion, and hence killed the original thought.
Could it be? Could it simply be true that I am going to have pain inflicted on me every single time I want to achieve success? And who was going to inflict that pain anyway?
The answer was simple: It was not true. It is only true if I had chosen to think that way. And if that was the case, then the person inflicting pain on me is no other than myself, my thoughts, my mind. It is a choice. We choose to believe or think in a certain way.
It hit me hard today that the belief "NO PAIN NO GAIN" is a very disempowering belief. 50% of the words used in that belief are negation words. 25% is a negative term. This leaves only 25% of the belief remaining positive i.e. GAIN.
Where is power in that? How can you empower yourself that way?
One of the main factors to change and positivity is the wording we use. If we constantly use negation vocabulary, then we are training our mind to live by them. However, if we constantly use vocabulary in the positive sense, then we are training our minds to live by positive ways & means.
The second thing which makes that belief very disempowering is that it is linking pain to achievement and success in our lives. The most successful people around the globe have constantly mentioned that we MUST enjoy the process. Part of enjoying the process is linking pleasure to the process itself and letting go of the outcome.
Just. Have. Fun.
One of the awesome things you could do is be flexible. Being stiff is not going to help you achieve your goals. Watch the video below and you will know what I mean.
The more flexible you are, the more acceptant you will be of any circumstances according around you which could be perceived as "PAIN". This will enable you to become proactive and not reactive to anything.
Imagine how things would be as you linked them to pleasure. I'll leave you with that imagination and let you decide.
Thursday, June 3, 2010
I Know Nothing: The Essence of Communication
As much as the title sounds like I just hit your ego real hard, it is also the truth. I was reading the last few pages of "A New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle where he states something very profound. He writes:
"The force behind the ego's wanting creates "enemies", that is to say, reaction in the form of an opposing force equal in intensity. The stronger the ego, the stronger the sense of separateness between people. The only actions that do not cause opposing reactions are those that are aimed at the good of all. They are inclusive, not exclusive. they join; they don't separate."
This is a very good explanation as to how people lack the skill of communicating with each other. I'm talking about the one sided communication line in which people decide that the other person communicating with them is not worth their time or effort. This is the ego at work. It's almost as if people are consciously choosing not to listen anymore.
If you engage in a conversation with anyone and you feel the sudden urge to not listen or pay attention to what is being said to you, regardless of validation/approval of your point of view or not, then be aware that this is your ego at work. Some people call it the monkey in you, others call it the child in you. The ego, aka the conditioned mind, will frame the subject communicating with you into an enemy. Not in the perspective of someone who might physically hurt you, though possible, but someone who is here to oppose you. As soon as your mind is convinced that you will be opposed, your defenses are up and you immediately discard or shift your attention away from the conversation.
This by itself, is the main reason why there is a lack of communication between many people around the world varying from politicians, companies, or even societies and cultures. Without communication, there will never be a genuine form of communication.
If you try to reach out for a solution for this issue, you will realize that there are many ways and means around it; however, it will always go down to your reality. And of course, you have to remember that MENTALITY is REALITY. If your reality is the kind that is easily shaken and stirred, then so is your mentality. It is a reflection of who you are from inside. Therefore, you are required to change your mindset when you converse with anyone.
The most effective way when dealing with your ego during a conversation is to tell yourself "I KNOW NOTHING". The term is disempowering. Not to you though, but to your ego. If you accept that you can receive information from people without judging it and assume during that moment that you are ready to be educated by any person on this planet, then your ego disappears, and hence you are able to listen attentively, learn, and exchange information. You are not required to agree, though you should admit that you do by putting your pride aside. Pride is only a different form of your ego.
"I KNOW NOTHING" does not imply that you are stupid, dumb, or uneducated. It is merely a tool which you can use to decondition your conditioned mind (ego) in order to receive information instead of block it out while you're under the mindset that no matter what the other side is trying to communicate to you is either wrong or against you.
It is extremely ironic that even the youngest of people are able to educate us nowadays and can receive so much information from every single person or thing which stimulates their knowledge. It's as if they are constantly digesting each and every piece of information that is manifested for or against them. I have always said that if you want to appreciate life, watch and observe children as they live their own. Why? Because they are so confident and disassociated from reality that they have created their own mental representations of that colourful life in their minds. Their mentalities project their realities onto the world which we live in. If you tell a child a story, watch their eyes as they open up wide, watch their ears as they respond to every single word you say, and notice their breathing as every out-breath defines their mental state which responds to your information. They are receiving information with no judgement whatsoever. Why? Because their minds are not entirely conditioned to think of you as someone who is opposing them. Which also explains why a baby will smile back at a stranger if the stranger smiles at them. This by itself is a beautiful response to stimuli.
Imagine how easy and smooth communication would be if we were to decondition our minds, as in defuse the ego out of our system, while we communicate with people. Imagine how you could walk out of an argument with the most confident smile and still be cool with the situation as if nothing had happened in the first place.
This is the essence of communication that I speak of. A notion that most people will not pay attention to.
"The force behind the ego's wanting creates "enemies", that is to say, reaction in the form of an opposing force equal in intensity. The stronger the ego, the stronger the sense of separateness between people. The only actions that do not cause opposing reactions are those that are aimed at the good of all. They are inclusive, not exclusive. they join; they don't separate."
This is a very good explanation as to how people lack the skill of communicating with each other. I'm talking about the one sided communication line in which people decide that the other person communicating with them is not worth their time or effort. This is the ego at work. It's almost as if people are consciously choosing not to listen anymore.
If you engage in a conversation with anyone and you feel the sudden urge to not listen or pay attention to what is being said to you, regardless of validation/approval of your point of view or not, then be aware that this is your ego at work. Some people call it the monkey in you, others call it the child in you. The ego, aka the conditioned mind, will frame the subject communicating with you into an enemy. Not in the perspective of someone who might physically hurt you, though possible, but someone who is here to oppose you. As soon as your mind is convinced that you will be opposed, your defenses are up and you immediately discard or shift your attention away from the conversation.
This by itself, is the main reason why there is a lack of communication between many people around the world varying from politicians, companies, or even societies and cultures. Without communication, there will never be a genuine form of communication.
If you try to reach out for a solution for this issue, you will realize that there are many ways and means around it; however, it will always go down to your reality. And of course, you have to remember that MENTALITY is REALITY. If your reality is the kind that is easily shaken and stirred, then so is your mentality. It is a reflection of who you are from inside. Therefore, you are required to change your mindset when you converse with anyone.
The most effective way when dealing with your ego during a conversation is to tell yourself "I KNOW NOTHING". The term is disempowering. Not to you though, but to your ego. If you accept that you can receive information from people without judging it and assume during that moment that you are ready to be educated by any person on this planet, then your ego disappears, and hence you are able to listen attentively, learn, and exchange information. You are not required to agree, though you should admit that you do by putting your pride aside. Pride is only a different form of your ego.
"I KNOW NOTHING" does not imply that you are stupid, dumb, or uneducated. It is merely a tool which you can use to decondition your conditioned mind (ego) in order to receive information instead of block it out while you're under the mindset that no matter what the other side is trying to communicate to you is either wrong or against you.
It is extremely ironic that even the youngest of people are able to educate us nowadays and can receive so much information from every single person or thing which stimulates their knowledge. It's as if they are constantly digesting each and every piece of information that is manifested for or against them. I have always said that if you want to appreciate life, watch and observe children as they live their own. Why? Because they are so confident and disassociated from reality that they have created their own mental representations of that colourful life in their minds. Their mentalities project their realities onto the world which we live in. If you tell a child a story, watch their eyes as they open up wide, watch their ears as they respond to every single word you say, and notice their breathing as every out-breath defines their mental state which responds to your information. They are receiving information with no judgement whatsoever. Why? Because their minds are not entirely conditioned to think of you as someone who is opposing them. Which also explains why a baby will smile back at a stranger if the stranger smiles at them. This by itself is a beautiful response to stimuli.
Imagine how easy and smooth communication would be if we were to decondition our minds, as in defuse the ego out of our system, while we communicate with people. Imagine how you could walk out of an argument with the most confident smile and still be cool with the situation as if nothing had happened in the first place.
This is the essence of communication that I speak of. A notion that most people will not pay attention to.
Saturday, May 15, 2010
The Notion of CHOICE
This is one of the most deep and profound notions that each and every one of us face on a daily basis if not hourly, minutely, or even secondly.
Did that make sense?
Yes?
No?
Maybe?
Read on.
I was out with 2 of my good friends today for cake and coffee and one of them complained about falling asleep after a long day's work when in reality that person wanted to go out and have fun regardless of the exhaustion. Reality is, it is a CHOICE.
We CHOOSE how to shape our lives consciously or unconsciously, and most of the time we are so unaware of the choices we make or have made that we turn towards the external circumstances and point fingers.
See, this is where the whole "be aware and present" thing comes in. Being aware or present means being fully alert of your thoughts, your emotions, your surroundings, your breathing, your physiology, and how you process information from any external stimuli. When you allow your senses to be fully alert of the present moment, when you allow your mind to be aware of your thought process, when you allow your body to take in every breath and enjoy it as you let it in and out and notice the time lapse between each breath, when you allow your thoughts to submerge into emotions and feel every single thought as part of your reality while you are alert, then you are present. Being present means that you are not in some other dimension such as The "What If..." or The "I should have..." dimensions. They are merely mental representations of thought which do not even exist! They are mind made up stories which your conditioned mind is kicking you straight out of consciousness into unconsciousness. Presence/Awareness is the key to become fully conscious of the choices you want to make. I'm talking responsible choice making.
Here's a good way to become present: Choose any object in front of you. It could be the laptop screen, the word "word", your pen, your phone. Whatever. Now focus your attention on it for a few seconds without judging it. Make sure you disassociate that object from its form. It's just... There. Now once you have done that, divert your attention into your breathing and notice how it is so smooth through the rise of your chest and fall. Do that for a minute. There! You just become present. At that moment, you were actually disassociated from any external factors that may affect your thinking or emotions. It is, by all means, meditation.
It has struck me that every single thing that happens in our lives is a RESULT of a choice we made. Uncle Newton was not high on coke when he coined the law "for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction". Orly? You don't say!
Seriously.
Imagine your choices as pathways into your future. Blue phosphoric in colour. These pathways will remain on a straight line until the next choice that you make. As you can imagine, these lines are NEVER on a straight line. They can be zigzagged, taking a detour to the left, squiggling, circular, or they can even intersect. Now let's add more colour to this movie! Let's say the conscious choices you make change your blue pathways into green, and the unconscious choices into red.
Got it?
Awesome!
Now I want you to draw the blue straight lines and visualize each and every choice you have made today whether it was a conscious one or an unconscious one. And as you remember each choice, I want you to change the colours and directions of these pathways accordingly. Notice how your choices, whether conscious or unconscious, could cause your pathways to intersect, separate, or even shape them into the weirdest shapes ever.
This is EXACTLY how the choices we make impact our lives. We are so unaware of their results that we actually decide to point fingers to the external world for the same regardless of whether the results are good or bad.
We can all decide, but we do not necessarily choose to go on with a particular decision. Notice what is happening here? We have the ability to choose NOT to choose! If such a thought takes place in your mind, then you are heavily impacting every single possible circumstance or situation in your life. I kid you not, this shit is for real.
If you choose to wake up for Fajr prayer and end up waking up at 8 am instead, then let's face it, you CHOSE to wake up at 8 am regardless of how tired you were. Reality is, you are not that tired. You just chose to sleep with that thought in your head.
"I have to wake up at 4:30 am for prayer!" Complained the body to the mind.
"I hear ya. Let's see how things go" Agreed the mind with the body.
"Yeah but, that's not usual right?" Continued the body to question the nonexistant moment.
And then, you sleep. And you wake up to turn your body at 4:25 am.
"Oh I'll just wake up a few minutes later. 5 minutes won't do any harm." Silenced the body the mind.
And then.... You woke up at 8 am.
This is called a conscious choice. You were AWARE of that choice and its process.
You ever wake up in the morning with excitement and your mind shouts with enthusiasm "Alright let's do this! Time to wake up!" and your body just responds with "No we're not" in utter bluntness?
If you were aware of such a dynamic, then you just became consciously aware of that choice.
An unconscious choice, on the other hand, is one that takes place when you are in that other dimension. I say dimension because it DOES feel like a different portal or pathway into nonexistant time, thoughts, or emotions. That dimension will blind you. It will compromise your healthy and present mental state like a radar gone haywire! A good example is stress. A state of mind in which most of us cannot handle and sink into so deep that we cannot make any proper choices.
If you can become aware of any external situations which might affect your state of mind, then you can be fully in control of your choices. If you fall under the spell of stress, then you are choosing to become stressed. Stress does not control your mind. It does not have a mind of its own. Your friends, family, the driver in the car next to you.... Whatever. These people or things have no control over your choices or state of mind. YOU are the one who chooses to make them affect you. YOU are the one who chooses to make them enter your world.
Does this make sense?
One of the good techniques that has worked for me is that whenever I am about to perform an action, good or bad, is to give myself a few seconds of self talk. "It's all about the choices I make". If you continue to remind yourself and your mind that there are consequences to every choice you make, then you are creating leverage towards what you're about to do. That leverage will help you make the right choice consciously. Try it!
Another one that I use is that I ask myself "how is this serving me towards my goal(s)?". If you could reach deep down into yourself and see how congruent your choices are with what YOU want, then you are in for treat! You are making healthy choices. Congratulations :)
Always remember that what ever choices you make, there is an impact, may it be big or small, towards the way your life will be shaped. Be conscious as you make your choices that will empower you towards your success!
Did that make sense?
Yes?
No?
Maybe?
Read on.
I was out with 2 of my good friends today for cake and coffee and one of them complained about falling asleep after a long day's work when in reality that person wanted to go out and have fun regardless of the exhaustion. Reality is, it is a CHOICE.
We CHOOSE how to shape our lives consciously or unconsciously, and most of the time we are so unaware of the choices we make or have made that we turn towards the external circumstances and point fingers.
See, this is where the whole "be aware and present" thing comes in. Being aware or present means being fully alert of your thoughts, your emotions, your surroundings, your breathing, your physiology, and how you process information from any external stimuli. When you allow your senses to be fully alert of the present moment, when you allow your mind to be aware of your thought process, when you allow your body to take in every breath and enjoy it as you let it in and out and notice the time lapse between each breath, when you allow your thoughts to submerge into emotions and feel every single thought as part of your reality while you are alert, then you are present. Being present means that you are not in some other dimension such as The "What If..." or The "I should have..." dimensions. They are merely mental representations of thought which do not even exist! They are mind made up stories which your conditioned mind is kicking you straight out of consciousness into unconsciousness. Presence/Awareness is the key to become fully conscious of the choices you want to make. I'm talking responsible choice making.
Here's a good way to become present: Choose any object in front of you. It could be the laptop screen, the word "word", your pen, your phone. Whatever. Now focus your attention on it for a few seconds without judging it. Make sure you disassociate that object from its form. It's just... There. Now once you have done that, divert your attention into your breathing and notice how it is so smooth through the rise of your chest and fall. Do that for a minute. There! You just become present. At that moment, you were actually disassociated from any external factors that may affect your thinking or emotions. It is, by all means, meditation.
It has struck me that every single thing that happens in our lives is a RESULT of a choice we made. Uncle Newton was not high on coke when he coined the law "for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction". Orly? You don't say!
Seriously.
Imagine your choices as pathways into your future. Blue phosphoric in colour. These pathways will remain on a straight line until the next choice that you make. As you can imagine, these lines are NEVER on a straight line. They can be zigzagged, taking a detour to the left, squiggling, circular, or they can even intersect. Now let's add more colour to this movie! Let's say the conscious choices you make change your blue pathways into green, and the unconscious choices into red.
Got it?
Awesome!
Now I want you to draw the blue straight lines and visualize each and every choice you have made today whether it was a conscious one or an unconscious one. And as you remember each choice, I want you to change the colours and directions of these pathways accordingly. Notice how your choices, whether conscious or unconscious, could cause your pathways to intersect, separate, or even shape them into the weirdest shapes ever.
This is EXACTLY how the choices we make impact our lives. We are so unaware of their results that we actually decide to point fingers to the external world for the same regardless of whether the results are good or bad.
We can all decide, but we do not necessarily choose to go on with a particular decision. Notice what is happening here? We have the ability to choose NOT to choose! If such a thought takes place in your mind, then you are heavily impacting every single possible circumstance or situation in your life. I kid you not, this shit is for real.
If you choose to wake up for Fajr prayer and end up waking up at 8 am instead, then let's face it, you CHOSE to wake up at 8 am regardless of how tired you were. Reality is, you are not that tired. You just chose to sleep with that thought in your head.
"I have to wake up at 4:30 am for prayer!" Complained the body to the mind.
"I hear ya. Let's see how things go" Agreed the mind with the body.
"Yeah but, that's not usual right?" Continued the body to question the nonexistant moment.
And then, you sleep. And you wake up to turn your body at 4:25 am.
"Oh I'll just wake up a few minutes later. 5 minutes won't do any harm." Silenced the body the mind.
And then.... You woke up at 8 am.
This is called a conscious choice. You were AWARE of that choice and its process.
You ever wake up in the morning with excitement and your mind shouts with enthusiasm "Alright let's do this! Time to wake up!" and your body just responds with "No we're not" in utter bluntness?
If you were aware of such a dynamic, then you just became consciously aware of that choice.
An unconscious choice, on the other hand, is one that takes place when you are in that other dimension. I say dimension because it DOES feel like a different portal or pathway into nonexistant time, thoughts, or emotions. That dimension will blind you. It will compromise your healthy and present mental state like a radar gone haywire! A good example is stress. A state of mind in which most of us cannot handle and sink into so deep that we cannot make any proper choices.
If you can become aware of any external situations which might affect your state of mind, then you can be fully in control of your choices. If you fall under the spell of stress, then you are choosing to become stressed. Stress does not control your mind. It does not have a mind of its own. Your friends, family, the driver in the car next to you.... Whatever. These people or things have no control over your choices or state of mind. YOU are the one who chooses to make them affect you. YOU are the one who chooses to make them enter your world.
Does this make sense?
One of the good techniques that has worked for me is that whenever I am about to perform an action, good or bad, is to give myself a few seconds of self talk. "It's all about the choices I make". If you continue to remind yourself and your mind that there are consequences to every choice you make, then you are creating leverage towards what you're about to do. That leverage will help you make the right choice consciously. Try it!
Another one that I use is that I ask myself "how is this serving me towards my goal(s)?". If you could reach deep down into yourself and see how congruent your choices are with what YOU want, then you are in for treat! You are making healthy choices. Congratulations :)
Always remember that what ever choices you make, there is an impact, may it be big or small, towards the way your life will be shaped. Be conscious as you make your choices that will empower you towards your success!
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
My new DJ mix: From Sun Two Moon
Summer is my favorite time of the year and I'm sure it can be for you too! Whenever possible, I compile a number of tracks/songs under the category of House and Trance music, and then I mix them.
In 2008, I started the series of "From Sun To Moon". It is a long mix of tracks themed to suit both your sun-bathing, ocean/pool splashing time of the day, and your ass-shaking, hands-in-the-air club nights.
2 years later, I decided to mix the second edition. Went down very nicely. I also added a few ocean and animal sounds in the background just to give it an extra "summer" feel to it.
So here it is: From Sun TWO Moon
Download here
Here is also an alternate link
Tracklist:
o1. Fast Distance presents Sun Coast - Puerta Del Sol (Intro mix)
o2. Aurosonic & Morphing Shadows featuring Tiff Lacey - Always Together (Kimito Lopez's Walls of Pink dub)
o3. Blank & Jones featuring Bobo - Perfect Silence (Martin Roth's Saint Kilda 5 pm remix)
o4. Oliver Smith - Pacific
o5. Luigi Lusini - Who We Are
o6. Estiva - Dalmatia
o7. Tritonal featuring Christina Soto - Forgive Me, Forget You (Ashley Wallbridge remix)
o8. Daniel Heatcliff - Phoenix
o9. The Thrillseekers - Savanna
1o. Solar Stone - Solar Coaster (Midway mix)
11. Andy Moor featuring Carrie Skipper - She Moves
12. Ferry Tale & Static Blue - Trapeze (Daniel Kandi's Emotional remix)
13. Max Graham featuring Neev Kennedy - Sun In The Winter (Alex M.O.R.P.H. remix)
Artwork and other related material such as .cue points for CD players to separate the tracks to be added later.
Enjoy!
In 2008, I started the series of "From Sun To Moon". It is a long mix of tracks themed to suit both your sun-bathing, ocean/pool splashing time of the day, and your ass-shaking, hands-in-the-air club nights.
2 years later, I decided to mix the second edition. Went down very nicely. I also added a few ocean and animal sounds in the background just to give it an extra "summer" feel to it.
So here it is: From Sun TWO Moon
Download here
Here is also an alternate link
Tracklist:
o1. Fast Distance presents Sun Coast - Puerta Del Sol (Intro mix)
o2. Aurosonic & Morphing Shadows featuring Tiff Lacey - Always Together (Kimito Lopez's Walls of Pink dub)
o3. Blank & Jones featuring Bobo - Perfect Silence (Martin Roth's Saint Kilda 5 pm remix)
o4. Oliver Smith - Pacific
o5. Luigi Lusini - Who We Are
o6. Estiva - Dalmatia
o7. Tritonal featuring Christina Soto - Forgive Me, Forget You (Ashley Wallbridge remix)
o8. Daniel Heatcliff - Phoenix
o9. The Thrillseekers - Savanna
1o. Solar Stone - Solar Coaster (Midway mix)
11. Andy Moor featuring Carrie Skipper - She Moves
12. Ferry Tale & Static Blue - Trapeze (Daniel Kandi's Emotional remix)
13. Max Graham featuring Neev Kennedy - Sun In The Winter (Alex M.O.R.P.H. remix)
Artwork and other related material such as .cue points for CD players to separate the tracks to be added later.
Enjoy!
Monday, May 10, 2010
The Notion of GRATITUDE
This blog post is dedicated to yourself, and only yourself. We are so caught up in our emotions and thoughts which are induced by our daily experiences that we tend to forget what we have in our lives that are so beautiful.
So my question is: What are YOU grateful for? Most people would response with "many things" yet they will not identify what these many things are.
Let's come together and really FEEL what we are grateful for, because when we are reminded by the awesome things in our lives, we can FEEL this deep energy fueling us to continue doing what we do in our lives and to reach our goals of success, happiness, and so on.
Here goes (in no specific order):
1. I am thankful for the amazing father in my life who has always given me beyond his all.
2. I am thankful for the great mother who always comforted me in any way possible and made sure I was the happiest son regardless of the situation.
3. I am grateful for the siblings that I have for their continuous support, love, and acceptance of who I am and what I do.
4. I am grateful for the person I am today.
5. I am grateful for the home I live in.
6. I am grateful for the bed I sleep on.
7. I am grateful for the food I eat.
8. I am grateful for the water I drink.
9. I am grateful for having arms, legs, tongue, eyes, ears, nose.
10. I am thankful for the ability to walk.
11. I am thankful for the ability to think.
12. I am thankful for the ability to become creative.
13. I am thankful for the ability to shape my own future and set goals.
14. I am grateful for the friends that have always supported me even if they opposed me.
15. I am grateful for the meeting great men I have in my life who I have learned from.
16. I am grateful for all the women I have met in my life who I have either befriended or dated for I have learned from the experiences of my relationship with them.
17. I am grateful for being able to communicate with people around the world regardless of age, gender, location, religion, culture.
18. I am grateful for being able to say I LOVE YOU.
19. I am grateful for being able to look into people's hearts and want to help them.
20. I am grateful for the ability to influence people.
21. I am thankful for my being.
22. I am grateful for every experience that I am going through or have gone through in my life.
23. I am grateful to be able to learn from different people around me regardless of age, gender, location, religion, culture, nationality.
24. I am grateful for my ability to emote.
25. I am grateful for owning a laptop.
26. I am thankful for waking up every morning with a smile on my face.
27. I am thankful for making other people smile.
28. I am thankful for thinking and talking to myself into my success.
29. I am thankful for being able to achieve what I want in my life.
30. I am grateful for the car I drive.
31. I am grateful for the money I carry with me and that is given to me.
32. I am grateful for all the opportunities for growth that I have at my door step every single day.
33. I am thankful for looking at different people and knowing what truly lies behind their form.
34. I am thankful for every person that I meet and have met in my life who has contributed to my success.
35. I am thankful for being able to think and act positively.
36. I am thankful that I convinced myself that looks do not matter when it comes to dating or being with a woman.
37. I am grateful that I can contribute to other people's success.
38. I am grateful that I can donate tangibly or intangibly to other people's lives.
39. I am grateful that I can feel for other people.
40. I am grateful that I have all fingers and toes.
41. I am thankful that I can breath.
42. I am thankful for everything that is happening to me in my life.
43. I am grateful for being able to face my fears.
44. I am grateful for the power of thought.
45. I am grateful that I took the time to type this whole thing down and share it with anyone out there.
Thank you God. Thank you Allah. There is so much more in my life that I am thankful for, yet I cannot find the words to describe them.
:)
So my question is: What are YOU grateful for? Most people would response with "many things" yet they will not identify what these many things are.
Let's come together and really FEEL what we are grateful for, because when we are reminded by the awesome things in our lives, we can FEEL this deep energy fueling us to continue doing what we do in our lives and to reach our goals of success, happiness, and so on.
Here goes (in no specific order):
1. I am thankful for the amazing father in my life who has always given me beyond his all.
2. I am thankful for the great mother who always comforted me in any way possible and made sure I was the happiest son regardless of the situation.
3. I am grateful for the siblings that I have for their continuous support, love, and acceptance of who I am and what I do.
4. I am grateful for the person I am today.
5. I am grateful for the home I live in.
6. I am grateful for the bed I sleep on.
7. I am grateful for the food I eat.
8. I am grateful for the water I drink.
9. I am grateful for having arms, legs, tongue, eyes, ears, nose.
10. I am thankful for the ability to walk.
11. I am thankful for the ability to think.
12. I am thankful for the ability to become creative.
13. I am thankful for the ability to shape my own future and set goals.
14. I am grateful for the friends that have always supported me even if they opposed me.
15. I am grateful for the meeting great men I have in my life who I have learned from.
16. I am grateful for all the women I have met in my life who I have either befriended or dated for I have learned from the experiences of my relationship with them.
17. I am grateful for being able to communicate with people around the world regardless of age, gender, location, religion, culture.
18. I am grateful for being able to say I LOVE YOU.
19. I am grateful for being able to look into people's hearts and want to help them.
20. I am grateful for the ability to influence people.
21. I am thankful for my being.
22. I am grateful for every experience that I am going through or have gone through in my life.
23. I am grateful to be able to learn from different people around me regardless of age, gender, location, religion, culture, nationality.
24. I am grateful for my ability to emote.
25. I am grateful for owning a laptop.
26. I am thankful for waking up every morning with a smile on my face.
27. I am thankful for making other people smile.
28. I am thankful for thinking and talking to myself into my success.
29. I am thankful for being able to achieve what I want in my life.
30. I am grateful for the car I drive.
31. I am grateful for the money I carry with me and that is given to me.
32. I am grateful for all the opportunities for growth that I have at my door step every single day.
33. I am thankful for looking at different people and knowing what truly lies behind their form.
34. I am thankful for every person that I meet and have met in my life who has contributed to my success.
35. I am thankful for being able to think and act positively.
36. I am thankful that I convinced myself that looks do not matter when it comes to dating or being with a woman.
37. I am grateful that I can contribute to other people's success.
38. I am grateful that I can donate tangibly or intangibly to other people's lives.
39. I am grateful that I can feel for other people.
40. I am grateful that I have all fingers and toes.
41. I am thankful that I can breath.
42. I am thankful for everything that is happening to me in my life.
43. I am grateful for being able to face my fears.
44. I am grateful for the power of thought.
45. I am grateful that I took the time to type this whole thing down and share it with anyone out there.
Thank you God. Thank you Allah. There is so much more in my life that I am thankful for, yet I cannot find the words to describe them.
:)
Saturday, May 1, 2010
People. Just. Don't. Care.
And it strikes that me that many people out there think that what ever they have achieved in life, must be approved by the outer world. People.
Funny how I just started this post with "and" as if it is a sequel to an original post. Reality is, it IS a sequel, yet not one that is related to a typed out blog post of mine. It is a sequel to what is happening on a daily basis.
Day by day, I am intrigued by the amount of people who strive to literally "show their goods" to the world just for the sake of external approval. Once that approved has been received, the approval seeking person craves for more. It is a way of life for most people.
Fancy cars. Jewelry. Cash. Attractive partners. Stylish clothing. These are all forms of ego-ic interpretations. These are all thoughts governing the minds of people which will constantly convince them that such "uniqueness" are enhancements to their identities which will make them look and feel better in their society. It is a self satisfying thought, yet mind poisoning. Which is why you. Just. Can't. Get. Enough.
"I want to have a HOT, SEXY, girlfriend" explained my friend unauthentically his need.
"Why?" I asked "Why do you want that specific quality?"
"I want to walk in the streets of this city while people point at us and say 'There goes XYZ and his smoking hot girlfriend!'" He responded in attempt to convince me that this is coming from his core.
As I ended that phone call, thoughts started washing away as consciousness cast a nimbus over my mind. I was present. "People just do not care" I said to myself. I was becoming delusional from a conscious perspective. I was detaching myself from form. The form of surrounding objects which we, as humans, would consider important and critical to our existence or enhancement of our identity.
Identity has no form. And as formless as it is, the objects surrounding it - which are perceived as important to its existence - will remain formless. Hence, leaving themselves as unimportant as they could be.
Eckhart Tolle mentioned a profound statement in his book "A New Earth" which discussed "Identity". Identity is not attached to a label such as age, or an objectified substance such as a college degree, but rather it is simply saying "I am..." and enjoying the silence that comes after that. When you are free of association from any external objects, thoughts, manifestations, conditioning, and so on, then you are free from external approval. You are authentic.
Authenticity falls under the ability to express and not to impress. Impressing people for the sake of approval requires you to be constantly alert of what other people's thoughts are about you. This by itself leaves you unconscious. It is an illusion created by your own mind. Your own thoughts. Yet thoughts which pretend to be you. Thoughts that lie on the surface and never manage to sink deep.
Imagine yourself as a pond in complete stillness. You are at peace. Then imagine a drop of water touching the surface of the pond. Does it shake you? Physically it would. It is merely an act of nature. However, does the drop penetrate the surface into the depths of that pond? Or does it disappear and become one with the pond whilst creating ripples on the surface?
The drop of water is the thought. The thought which, upon your choice and ability to accept its presence, might govern you or be governed by you.
No matter how hard you try to climb that ladder in society, people literally do not care. The ones who, will lend you that approval you are seeking for a short period of time and brush you off. Why? Because they have better things to take care. Some, however, will constantly give you approval for the sake of your approval to their actions. If you approve, they approve. It is a loop that constantly convinces you that as long as people agree with you, you will agree with you. The more that dosage of validation is given to you, the more that "you" inflates to agree with you, and consequently, control you. To most people, this is how society works. To the conscious mind, it is part of your ego; another formless entity. The formless entity which you have not given birth to(for society has done so) but rather helped it grow.
It takes a single thought to kick you back into unconsciousness for the sake of external validation and approval of your actions, thoughts, what you have achieved, how much you earn for a living, what your social status is, how much value you give to people, and so on and so forth.
Always remind yourself that whatever you achieve, own, want to achieve, will never be part of other people's reality unless they want to suck you into theirs for the sake of their own status in society or any relevant aspect of that behavior. Ironically, it is also an approval seeking action. And even if that DOES happen, you will be provided with that form of validation for a period of time that insatiable to your thoughts which are controlling you.
You will be reminded of this reality that lies deep in your core when people will intentionally/unintentionally stop providing you with their approval. The bad news is, you will feel empty. You will feel the unbearable emotion of being unable to move forward towards your goals. It is true. If you're denying this fact, this feeling, this emptiness, then your ego is at work. It is protecting itself from nonexistence. Because the instant you realize all this, is the moment you are entering a state of consciousness, presence, and awareness of your true beauty and core's potential. That's the good news.
People. Just. Don't. Care.
People. Just. Don't. Care.
Funny how I just started this post with "and" as if it is a sequel to an original post. Reality is, it IS a sequel, yet not one that is related to a typed out blog post of mine. It is a sequel to what is happening on a daily basis.
Day by day, I am intrigued by the amount of people who strive to literally "show their goods" to the world just for the sake of external approval. Once that approved has been received, the approval seeking person craves for more. It is a way of life for most people.
Fancy cars. Jewelry. Cash. Attractive partners. Stylish clothing. These are all forms of ego-ic interpretations. These are all thoughts governing the minds of people which will constantly convince them that such "uniqueness" are enhancements to their identities which will make them look and feel better in their society. It is a self satisfying thought, yet mind poisoning. Which is why you. Just. Can't. Get. Enough.
"I want to have a HOT, SEXY, girlfriend" explained my friend unauthentically his need.
"Why?" I asked "Why do you want that specific quality?"
"I want to walk in the streets of this city while people point at us and say 'There goes XYZ and his smoking hot girlfriend!'" He responded in attempt to convince me that this is coming from his core.
As I ended that phone call, thoughts started washing away as consciousness cast a nimbus over my mind. I was present. "People just do not care" I said to myself. I was becoming delusional from a conscious perspective. I was detaching myself from form. The form of surrounding objects which we, as humans, would consider important and critical to our existence or enhancement of our identity.
Identity has no form. And as formless as it is, the objects surrounding it - which are perceived as important to its existence - will remain formless. Hence, leaving themselves as unimportant as they could be.
Eckhart Tolle mentioned a profound statement in his book "A New Earth" which discussed "Identity". Identity is not attached to a label such as age, or an objectified substance such as a college degree, but rather it is simply saying "I am..." and enjoying the silence that comes after that. When you are free of association from any external objects, thoughts, manifestations, conditioning, and so on, then you are free from external approval. You are authentic.
Authenticity falls under the ability to express and not to impress. Impressing people for the sake of approval requires you to be constantly alert of what other people's thoughts are about you. This by itself leaves you unconscious. It is an illusion created by your own mind. Your own thoughts. Yet thoughts which pretend to be you. Thoughts that lie on the surface and never manage to sink deep.
Imagine yourself as a pond in complete stillness. You are at peace. Then imagine a drop of water touching the surface of the pond. Does it shake you? Physically it would. It is merely an act of nature. However, does the drop penetrate the surface into the depths of that pond? Or does it disappear and become one with the pond whilst creating ripples on the surface?
The drop of water is the thought. The thought which, upon your choice and ability to accept its presence, might govern you or be governed by you.
No matter how hard you try to climb that ladder in society, people literally do not care. The ones who, will lend you that approval you are seeking for a short period of time and brush you off. Why? Because they have better things to take care. Some, however, will constantly give you approval for the sake of your approval to their actions. If you approve, they approve. It is a loop that constantly convinces you that as long as people agree with you, you will agree with you. The more that dosage of validation is given to you, the more that "you" inflates to agree with you, and consequently, control you. To most people, this is how society works. To the conscious mind, it is part of your ego; another formless entity. The formless entity which you have not given birth to(for society has done so) but rather helped it grow.
It takes a single thought to kick you back into unconsciousness for the sake of external validation and approval of your actions, thoughts, what you have achieved, how much you earn for a living, what your social status is, how much value you give to people, and so on and so forth.
Always remind yourself that whatever you achieve, own, want to achieve, will never be part of other people's reality unless they want to suck you into theirs for the sake of their own status in society or any relevant aspect of that behavior. Ironically, it is also an approval seeking action. And even if that DOES happen, you will be provided with that form of validation for a period of time that insatiable to your thoughts which are controlling you.
You will be reminded of this reality that lies deep in your core when people will intentionally/unintentionally stop providing you with their approval. The bad news is, you will feel empty. You will feel the unbearable emotion of being unable to move forward towards your goals. It is true. If you're denying this fact, this feeling, this emptiness, then your ego is at work. It is protecting itself from nonexistence. Because the instant you realize all this, is the moment you are entering a state of consciousness, presence, and awareness of your true beauty and core's potential. That's the good news.
People. Just. Don't. Care.
People. Just. Don't. Care.
Thursday, April 22, 2010
The Core
Good job!
It is strange that I just started this blog post with the last thing I would end it with. Then again, this is truly a moment of self respect, self trust, and gratitude. I believe firmly that I have found a way to get in shape without the hassle of going to the gym and hurting myself as I listen to a male buff telling me to jump on the machines over and over again.
It's boring.
What I have found is no secret. It is simply a work of art. Curious? I'll tell ya!
I have nothing to hide from you. I am here to share the notion of experiences that I am going through as I enjoy them.
A few weeks ago, I posted a tweet with this picture:
It's no mystery. It's just something that I decided to hop on and accept as a challenge. Or rather, an opportunity to grow better, stronger, faster, and become more... Enlightened!
This is a fitness program called Insanity. It is fully instructed through a series of DVDs by Shaun T. At first, I thought this was going to be one of those passive fitness programs. I was completely wrong. This is by far, the most entertaining fitness program I have ever followed.
Are we done here? Yes. If you're eager to check it out, go to www.beachbody.com . They ship internationally upon request.
Onto the main notion of this post: The Core.
When I speak of The Core, I usually relate it to our personalities. I am deeply fascinated by how our cores operate. Only because I believe that we are all truly beautiful within regardless of our actions. People act in a certain way due to past experiences and the growth of the conditioned mind aka the ego.
However, The Core that I am referring to here is the physical core. It is the center of your body. This:
One of the things that Shaun T constantly reminds you of is to keep your Core contracted. My God! I never realized that we have such strength within. I'm not talking muscle wise. I am talking aura. Energy. Mental state.
It's beautiful.
The Core, in my opinion, is every body's personal true strength. It is your physical and mental strengths combined which give you your power. Your ability to take action regardless of the time frame that action is aimed at. The more you focus on your core, the more you are empowered. Look deep into yourself. Discover your potential. It's a very light, tingling sensation that you will feel when you are sitting in silence, in peace, in serenity, as you focus on the life within you. Imagine it now. Imagine yourself sitting in your most comfortable place and simply grasping every inch of attention then directing it to your core. Can you feel it? Can you feel that power? If you thought you were powerful, think again. No. FEEL again! If you can't feel it, then imagine yourself feeling it.
The more you focus on your Core, the more you feel that sense of achievement. That POWER!
And here I am, sitting comfortably, in my chair at home... Like a King! the kind of King who just ruled a nation with the purpose of peace, gratitude, power, and love. If you know how that feels, then you are consciously aware of your core. If you haven't, get excited! You are about to unleash the power within!
Good job!
It is strange that I just started this blog post with the last thing I would end it with. Then again, this is truly a moment of self respect, self trust, and gratitude. I believe firmly that I have found a way to get in shape without the hassle of going to the gym and hurting myself as I listen to a male buff telling me to jump on the machines over and over again.
It's boring.
What I have found is no secret. It is simply a work of art. Curious? I'll tell ya!
I have nothing to hide from you. I am here to share the notion of experiences that I am going through as I enjoy them.
A few weeks ago, I posted a tweet with this picture:
It's no mystery. It's just something that I decided to hop on and accept as a challenge. Or rather, an opportunity to grow better, stronger, faster, and become more... Enlightened!
This is a fitness program called Insanity. It is fully instructed through a series of DVDs by Shaun T. At first, I thought this was going to be one of those passive fitness programs. I was completely wrong. This is by far, the most entertaining fitness program I have ever followed.
Are we done here? Yes. If you're eager to check it out, go to www.beachbody.com . They ship internationally upon request.
Onto the main notion of this post: The Core.
When I speak of The Core, I usually relate it to our personalities. I am deeply fascinated by how our cores operate. Only because I believe that we are all truly beautiful within regardless of our actions. People act in a certain way due to past experiences and the growth of the conditioned mind aka the ego.
However, The Core that I am referring to here is the physical core. It is the center of your body. This:
One of the things that Shaun T constantly reminds you of is to keep your Core contracted. My God! I never realized that we have such strength within. I'm not talking muscle wise. I am talking aura. Energy. Mental state.
It's beautiful.
The Core, in my opinion, is every body's personal true strength. It is your physical and mental strengths combined which give you your power. Your ability to take action regardless of the time frame that action is aimed at. The more you focus on your core, the more you are empowered. Look deep into yourself. Discover your potential. It's a very light, tingling sensation that you will feel when you are sitting in silence, in peace, in serenity, as you focus on the life within you. Imagine it now. Imagine yourself sitting in your most comfortable place and simply grasping every inch of attention then directing it to your core. Can you feel it? Can you feel that power? If you thought you were powerful, think again. No. FEEL again! If you can't feel it, then imagine yourself feeling it.
The more you focus on your Core, the more you feel that sense of achievement. That POWER!
And here I am, sitting comfortably, in my chair at home... Like a King! the kind of King who just ruled a nation with the purpose of peace, gratitude, power, and love. If you know how that feels, then you are consciously aware of your core. If you haven't, get excited! You are about to unleash the power within!
Good job!
Monday, March 22, 2010
The Attraction Switch
It's one of these things that puzzles people. Its one of these things that people react to. ITs one of these things that most people are unaware of how or why it comes to existance. And it is one of these things, in which many people subconsciously turn... "ON".
WHAT IS THE ATTRACTION SWITCH?
It is indeed a switch. A switch that can be "turned on" and "turned off" by an external factor. That factor, is the opposite of your sex. There are no rules. There are no policies. But there are standards within each one of us as to how and when that switch operates.
Standards are the equivalent of our own self worth. The lower the standards, the lower the self worth. Mind you though, this does NOT necessarily imply you're a person with bad taste, or someone who does not value him/herself, but it rather tells YOU, and ONLY YOU, how much self worth you have for yourself.
Don't mix this up with the way society has conditioned us. This particular area will be discussed in another blog post.
Back to topic.
WHY DOES IT EXIST?
It is a subconscious act that we will seek the opportunity to allow that switch to operate whenever a plausable and qualified candidate is nearby. However, it puzzles a lot of people as to how and when the Attraction Switch operates. As in, how we label that person as "attractive".
Without being attracted to someone, we cannot get into relationships. Relationships don't just happen. There's chemistry involved. Chemistry comes from interacting with someone who you are attracted to. Regardless of your intention out of that relationship, our minds subconsciously perceive the people we are attracted to as ones who we would want to be with for a period of time.
It's like that girl you spotted on the dancefloor at the nightclub the other night as her hips swayed gently on the dancefloor and looked at you so seductively. Or that man that walked swiftly, yet pursuingly past you at the local beach. Or that opposite sex which you met at a social gathering when your eyes locked contact for seconds which seemed like hours. You feel that deep tingling, yet sensual feeling? That's the switch. And that's how it is turned on.
As much as the time taken to switch it on is concerned, the length is not really a big factor. The Attraction Switch can be turned on in a matter of seconds, or hours, or days.... Whatever.
The operation of this switch depends on the following:
The most important factor that turns on this switch is obviously the exterior. Looks. I mean, it is what matters so much, right?
WRONG!!!
Looks mark no signifance whatsoever towards the attractiveness of a person. what REALLY matter are:
1. Social Value
2. Health
3. Confidence
4. Attitude
These 4 factors have absolutely nothing to do with anything superficial or materialistic such as money, the car you drive, the house you live in. All these things are merely pointers to the 4.
1. SOCIAL VALUE
This is by far one of the most important things that will by all means attract the opposite sex to you. However, the depth of its meaning varies from one culture to another. Social value is merely you place in the society. How are you expressing yourself to the people around you and how do they respond to that. Your value, as a person, to a community is highly regarded by the opposite sex because it indicates how well you are situated within them in terms of:
a. Social status
b. Your ability to socialize and meet people
c. Your ability to communicate
d. Your ability to express yourself freely
e. The way you handle situations and experiences
The above list, however, is not exclusive to social value. There are far more indicators to the opposite sex that your social value is in a good condition.
The simplest, and yet most common, example for someone with good social value is someone who is surrounded by a good, trustworthy, self fulfilling social circle. The fact that this particular person surrounds him/herself with this kind of social circle makes the attracted person feel secure and comfortable when introduced to them.
A stranger of the opposite sex might think "Who is THIS? He seems to be very welcomed and loved by his friends and family. There MUST be something about him/her!"
The higher the social value, the higher the attraction level. Let's take an extreme example: His Highness Sheikh Hamdan Bin Mohamed Bin Rashid Al Maktoum (aka Fazaa).
His social value is extremely high. He is surrounded by top leaders around the globe, including his father, H.H. Sheikh Mohamed Bin Rashid Al Maktoum. His presence is not ignored due to the magnificance of people who are constantly enriching his presence.
Again, he is only an extreme example. I only used it to give you a clear idea of what good social value looks like.
2. HEATLH
This is ultimately the number one factor affecting the operation of the Attraction Switch that gets commonly confused by how someone "looks". Why? Imagine now that you are being approached by a total stranger. Someone who is fairly on the larger weight scale. He/she looks somewhat fatigued, doesn't have the best body odor you have ever smelt, yet is the nicest person you have met. What is your perception? Some might brush them off, some might continue to talk, others might break rapport at one point and leave. Bottom line: the switch remains off. There are, of course, exceptions. Though I speak of the bigger picture. The reality.
Why does this happen?
The impression that is made here indicates that this particular person is not someone you can picture yourself being with. Why? They are simly not healthy enough. Health will affect the future of the siblings those 2 people might have some day. It's a simple, subconscious thought that most of us are not aware of. This is why we get "turned off". However, if you imagine yourself being approached by a sculptured the gentlest of all males/females, with a healthy, yet sexy, figure, you are instantly setting to the switch to "ON". With big green lights flashing with it. So big you just can't resist their slightest touch, or presence, of breath.
Again, the examples mentioned are extreme. They are merely used to give the idea more clarity. I want you to invision yourself in those situations as you read them and notice how your breathing changes. How your physiology reacts to it. How your emotions vary from one experience to another.
Health is an important factor when it comes to attraction. Health is an indicator that the person of the opposite sex can take care of him/herself, lives in a healthy environment and a healthy lifestye, enforces health as part of his daily routine and conditions his/her mind to health.
If someone is living a healthy lifestyle, it implies that he/she is in a healthy state of mind. Your health will always determine the way you carry yourself in life. Some people are obese, yet maintain a clean environment around them. Others are genetically ill, yet enjoy eating healthy food. Health does no necessarily relate to obesity or excess weight. It's a multi-dimensional area in our lives which can be forged into different forms.
It is often confused with someone being good looking due to the way our society has conditioned our mind to think like this:
Healthy = Good looking
Which is absolutely, and purely, bullshit.
Looking good can be a result of good health, but it is not equal to it. It is only an indication that you take care of your own health and that you maintain that kind of lifestyle. This is why women find "good looking" men attractive. Regardless of their spoken observations such as "O.M.G. he's so hot!", the notion is actually related to his health. It means that this man, is healthy. He is a provider of health. His children will be healthy someday. His family is probably healthy too. And so on.
The above also applies for men seeking attractive women. Health is a major factor for many men nowadays as it defines to them how their future will be with them.
3. CONFIDENCE
The single, most powerful factor of all. This is the ultimate weapon for anyone who does not necessarily have any of the 4 factors mentioned above sorted out. It is the easiest attribute in any human that affects the operation of the Attraction Switch.
Confidence is the biggest indicator to the opposite sex that he/she is a risk taker, puts him/herself on the line, does not identify with fear, and is an absolute achiever. Confident people are ones who do not entirely focus much on "what if", but rather "this is". They are the kind of people who have "the word of God" so to speak. Meaning, what they say and do is final. Nothing can come their way (unless from God, or "the universe" to the others) and if anything will, then it's okay. Confident people are accepting, forgiving, and take action. They do not rely on their emotions, nor do they make much use of logic. They don't have mental dialogues. They. Just. Go for it. Risk to them is an illusion. Because even if they fall, they are ready to get back up even stronger than ever.
To many of us, confidence is a necessary key factor to the future of 2 people who will be attracted to each other and form a relationship.
Imagine now, a confident person. What's their posture like? How do they walk? How do they stand? What's their vocal tonality like? Are they seeking rapport? Or are they breaking it? Are they shy? Or are they upfront and straight forward? What is fear to them?
If you cannot truly identify the answers for these questions, look up a person on Google who you might think is confident. A very good example is Barack Obama, president of the USA. Why? Simple. His presence is NOT ignored when he walks into a room.
Confident people carry this thick, dense, solid energy with them. It's absolutely rock solid to the point that their presence in any place is not ignored. They are people who give value by just being... there!
Picture this: You're minding your own business somewhere - could be the street, mall, work, whatever - and you are approached by the person I described above from the opposite sex. Think about it. Think about how you would react to him/her. How you would emote to them. What would you be thinking? What would you be wanting to do to/with them?
On the other hand, picture the very opposite: A shy, apologetic, fearful person from the opposite sex, approaching you.
Who do you see yourself more with?
Who turns you... "ON"?
4. ATTITUDE
Attitude is my way of describing certain personality traits that are crucial to the operation of the Attraction Switch. After all, most of us look for the personality traits and not the way the opposite sex looks.
If we're talking about males, their attitude can include leadership, dominance, an abundant mindset, a good control of emotions, and so on.
If we're talking about females, their attitude can include a pure sense of self, self worth, and so on.
There various parts of our attitudes that most of us prefer to have in the opposite sex we would get attracted to. An attitude is basically an approach to life. The tools that we use to achieve and empower ourselves. It is the reason why some of us might wonder about the opposite sex and say "there's something about him/her! I just can't put my finger on it!"
It is a deep side of our intuition that guides us towards that switch to turn it on. Our own perceptions of the attitude(s) in the person we would like to be attracted to differs from one person to another. However, the context is the same.
Unfortunately, attitude is usually mistaken in males for being arrogant and assholes, and bitchy and stuck up in females. This is just a projection that clearly tells us we are attracted to people who are free spririted, are not ego-functional, and have a solid sense of self worth, empowerment, and achievement.
The 4 explained factors here relate more to the core and depth of our true selves. This is where the true mechanics of our minds, bodies, and souls function. In fact, the idea of the "switch" is simply an idea. It doesn't exist. It is a subconscious thought. A requirement. A necessity.
As much as the above is self explainatory on some level, we are all deeply connected with our own switches. The Attraction Switch is one of them. An important one of them.
Are these 4 factors exclusive for the switch to operate and cause us to be attracted to someone else?
The answer is simply no. Your reality differs from others. However, the above form some sort of a baseline for attraction to arise.
If you're still wondering as to how looks are not a factor when it comes to the Attraction Switch, then I'll let you go with this thought: Be hygene, well-groomed, dress appropriately (you don't have to follow a fashion trend to dress well), and be presentable and approachable. That is it!
Saturday, February 6, 2010
One Notion to Rule Them All
The title of the blog and this first post is actually taken from a very old Looney Toons episode that I have always found to be hilarious. It features Daffy Duck, a dog called Leopold, and an unnamed mad scientist who is a caricatured version of Peter Lorre (visually & vocally). Credits go to Birth of a Notion on Wikipedia
The title used here is a reflection of my current journey in life through different areas such as health, wealth relationships, and so on. A notion by definition is a mental image or representation; an idea or conception (Credits: The Free Dictionary dot com).
As a progressed in life, thousands of micro notions have been born that formed chunks of notions that are leading my thoughts onto success and achieving what I really want.
Question is: What notions are these that I speak of?
Answer: Stay tuned :)
Awesome!
The title used here is a reflection of my current journey in life through different areas such as health, wealth relationships, and so on. A notion by definition is a mental image or representation; an idea or conception (Credits: The Free Dictionary dot com).
As a progressed in life, thousands of micro notions have been born that formed chunks of notions that are leading my thoughts onto success and achieving what I really want.
Question is: What notions are these that I speak of?
Answer: Stay tuned :)
Awesome!
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