"The force behind the ego's wanting creates "enemies", that is to say, reaction in the form of an opposing force equal in intensity. The stronger the ego, the stronger the sense of separateness between people. The only actions that do not cause opposing reactions are those that are aimed at the good of all. They are inclusive, not exclusive. they join; they don't separate."
This is a very good explanation as to how people lack the skill of communicating with each other. I'm talking about the one sided communication line in which people decide that the other person communicating with them is not worth their time or effort. This is the ego at work. It's almost as if people are consciously choosing not to listen anymore.
If you engage in a conversation with anyone and you feel the sudden urge to not listen or pay attention to what is being said to you, regardless of validation/approval of your point of view or not, then be aware that this is your ego at work. Some people call it the monkey in you, others call it the child in you. The ego, aka the conditioned mind, will frame the subject communicating with you into an enemy. Not in the perspective of someone who might physically hurt you, though possible, but someone who is here to oppose you. As soon as your mind is convinced that you will be opposed, your defenses are up and you immediately discard or shift your attention away from the conversation.
This by itself, is the main reason why there is a lack of communication between many people around the world varying from politicians, companies, or even societies and cultures. Without communication, there will never be a genuine form of communication.
If you try to reach out for a solution for this issue, you will realize that there are many ways and means around it; however, it will always go down to your reality. And of course, you have to remember that MENTALITY is REALITY. If your reality is the kind that is easily shaken and stirred, then so is your mentality. It is a reflection of who you are from inside. Therefore, you are required to change your mindset when you converse with anyone.
The most effective way when dealing with your ego during a conversation is to tell yourself "I KNOW NOTHING". The term is disempowering. Not to you though, but to your ego. If you accept that you can receive information from people without judging it and assume during that moment that you are ready to be educated by any person on this planet, then your ego disappears, and hence you are able to listen attentively, learn, and exchange information. You are not required to agree, though you should admit that you do by putting your pride aside. Pride is only a different form of your ego.
"I KNOW NOTHING" does not imply that you are stupid, dumb, or uneducated. It is merely a tool which you can use to decondition your conditioned mind (ego) in order to receive information instead of block it out while you're under the mindset that no matter what the other side is trying to communicate to you is either wrong or against you.
It is extremely ironic that even the youngest of people are able to educate us nowadays and can receive so much information from every single person or thing which stimulates their knowledge. It's as if they are constantly digesting each and every piece of information that is manifested for or against them. I have always said that if you want to appreciate life, watch and observe children as they live their own. Why? Because they are so confident and disassociated from reality that they have created their own mental representations of that colourful life in their minds. Their mentalities project their realities onto the world which we live in. If you tell a child a story, watch their eyes as they open up wide, watch their ears as they respond to every single word you say, and notice their breathing as every out-breath defines their mental state which responds to your information. They are receiving information with no judgement whatsoever. Why? Because their minds are not entirely conditioned to think of you as someone who is opposing them. Which also explains why a baby will smile back at a stranger if the stranger smiles at them. This by itself is a beautiful response to stimuli.
Imagine how easy and smooth communication would be if we were to decondition our minds, as in defuse the ego out of our system, while we communicate with people. Imagine how you could walk out of an argument with the most confident smile and still be cool with the situation as if nothing had happened in the first place.
This is the essence of communication that I speak of. A notion that most people will not pay attention to.
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