It is the period where you are sinking way too deep into your own emotional misery, your own insecurities, your own negativity, and your own comfort. For most people, living inside the cocoon is a mind (& body) numbing experience. I am without a doubt a regular in that place. Sometimes I take a peak, smile, and leave swiftly without any concerns because I know that this isn't a place for me, and sometimes I just walk in, observe the surroundings, feel the atmosphere, and lay on that cocoonish couch for the longest time.
The cocoon is my sanctuary of thoughts. Negative thoughts. Thoughts that will constantly take me into a different dimension. A dimension in the past, or in the future. Either way both extremes of that dimension... Do NOT exist. As much as the fabric and complexion of the cocoon seems like a mesmerizing, yet beautiful exterior, what lies beneath these coutures, is an aura that is so infectious that it will consume you for as long as you stay in that cocoon.
Sometimes I just walk into the cocoon and lay on the bed of emotional comfort and begin to roll from side to side, sinking deeper... And deeper... And deeper... And deeper... Into an emotional journey fueled by thought. The kind of thought that wanders around my brain's frontal lobe. The kind of thought that questions reality. The kind of thought that twists my imagination.
With the aura lying around the inner lining of the cocoon acting as a catalyst to such a soothing, yet unreal environment, I am consumed by my imagination that is being lead by unauthentic thought. Seeing that I have given myself the correct amount of suffering on the bed, I shift my location inside my cocoon to the dining room as I walk in hunger for more unhealthy emotions. The starvation for these emotions is one of hate, the inability to forgive, the lack of acceptance, and the sadness. And as I sit on that dinner table waiting for my meal to cook, I smell the scent of indecision, low self esteem, deprived health, and insanity.
There is absolutely no doubt, that I am going to enjoy my dinner served warm as it is my fave dish for the evening: Tears.
Though SOMETIMES, the cocoon becomes a painful numbing experience to the point that you will start to awaken. You will start to look around and see through every single wall, every single shape, every single object in that place... And when you do so, you will realize that the cocoon is your own perception and illusion. It is simply a story your own mind makes up to soothe you so that you can avoid pain when in reality you are BECOMING part of the pain.
It's time to wake up, and I choose to live with passion. I choose to make this cocoon perish into nonexistance as nonexistant it already is.
I choose reality.
I choose life... With a smile :)
Monday, August 16, 2010
Monday, June 7, 2010
No pain, No Gain = No Power yo!!
Throughout my life, my ego had always complained about how hard things are especially if I wanted to accomplish something. I would complain to my family, my friends, my professors back in University years, or even to myself. These complaints always ended with "dude, no pain, no gain".
That very phrase ticked my ego off every single time it was mentioned. I never understood why. Well, I understood why it bothered my ego, and that was because it tried to stop it from growing by telling it to shut up. But that's another topic. It ticked ME off because I felt that every single thing I wanted to achieve in my life had to have pain involved.
Is that true? Is every achieving anything life a result of PAIN?! Is pain involved in any process? Is it mandatory that we feel that way if we want to reach our goals or become successful in any area of our lives?
For years and years I had battled through every process and tried to find out if all these questions were true. Year after year, goal after goal, I was convinced that that belief was true. It became part of my subconscious to the point that the instant the thought of success and achievement sprung in my mind, the next thought was immediately "PAIN". Isn't it amazing how our minds learn so fast in applying patterns? That by itself was a pattern of thought which lead to a certain emotion, and hence killed the original thought.
Could it be? Could it simply be true that I am going to have pain inflicted on me every single time I want to achieve success? And who was going to inflict that pain anyway?
The answer was simple: It was not true. It is only true if I had chosen to think that way. And if that was the case, then the person inflicting pain on me is no other than myself, my thoughts, my mind. It is a choice. We choose to believe or think in a certain way.
It hit me hard today that the belief "NO PAIN NO GAIN" is a very disempowering belief. 50% of the words used in that belief are negation words. 25% is a negative term. This leaves only 25% of the belief remaining positive i.e. GAIN.
Where is power in that? How can you empower yourself that way?
One of the main factors to change and positivity is the wording we use. If we constantly use negation vocabulary, then we are training our mind to live by them. However, if we constantly use vocabulary in the positive sense, then we are training our minds to live by positive ways & means.
The second thing which makes that belief very disempowering is that it is linking pain to achievement and success in our lives. The most successful people around the globe have constantly mentioned that we MUST enjoy the process. Part of enjoying the process is linking pleasure to the process itself and letting go of the outcome.
Just. Have. Fun.
One of the awesome things you could do is be flexible. Being stiff is not going to help you achieve your goals. Watch the video below and you will know what I mean.
The more flexible you are, the more acceptant you will be of any circumstances according around you which could be perceived as "PAIN". This will enable you to become proactive and not reactive to anything.
Imagine how things would be as you linked them to pleasure. I'll leave you with that imagination and let you decide.
That very phrase ticked my ego off every single time it was mentioned. I never understood why. Well, I understood why it bothered my ego, and that was because it tried to stop it from growing by telling it to shut up. But that's another topic. It ticked ME off because I felt that every single thing I wanted to achieve in my life had to have pain involved.
Is that true? Is every achieving anything life a result of PAIN?! Is pain involved in any process? Is it mandatory that we feel that way if we want to reach our goals or become successful in any area of our lives?
For years and years I had battled through every process and tried to find out if all these questions were true. Year after year, goal after goal, I was convinced that that belief was true. It became part of my subconscious to the point that the instant the thought of success and achievement sprung in my mind, the next thought was immediately "PAIN". Isn't it amazing how our minds learn so fast in applying patterns? That by itself was a pattern of thought which lead to a certain emotion, and hence killed the original thought.
Could it be? Could it simply be true that I am going to have pain inflicted on me every single time I want to achieve success? And who was going to inflict that pain anyway?
The answer was simple: It was not true. It is only true if I had chosen to think that way. And if that was the case, then the person inflicting pain on me is no other than myself, my thoughts, my mind. It is a choice. We choose to believe or think in a certain way.
It hit me hard today that the belief "NO PAIN NO GAIN" is a very disempowering belief. 50% of the words used in that belief are negation words. 25% is a negative term. This leaves only 25% of the belief remaining positive i.e. GAIN.
Where is power in that? How can you empower yourself that way?
One of the main factors to change and positivity is the wording we use. If we constantly use negation vocabulary, then we are training our mind to live by them. However, if we constantly use vocabulary in the positive sense, then we are training our minds to live by positive ways & means.
The second thing which makes that belief very disempowering is that it is linking pain to achievement and success in our lives. The most successful people around the globe have constantly mentioned that we MUST enjoy the process. Part of enjoying the process is linking pleasure to the process itself and letting go of the outcome.
Just. Have. Fun.
One of the awesome things you could do is be flexible. Being stiff is not going to help you achieve your goals. Watch the video below and you will know what I mean.
The more flexible you are, the more acceptant you will be of any circumstances according around you which could be perceived as "PAIN". This will enable you to become proactive and not reactive to anything.
Imagine how things would be as you linked them to pleasure. I'll leave you with that imagination and let you decide.
Thursday, June 3, 2010
I Know Nothing: The Essence of Communication
As much as the title sounds like I just hit your ego real hard, it is also the truth. I was reading the last few pages of "A New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle where he states something very profound. He writes:
"The force behind the ego's wanting creates "enemies", that is to say, reaction in the form of an opposing force equal in intensity. The stronger the ego, the stronger the sense of separateness between people. The only actions that do not cause opposing reactions are those that are aimed at the good of all. They are inclusive, not exclusive. they join; they don't separate."
This is a very good explanation as to how people lack the skill of communicating with each other. I'm talking about the one sided communication line in which people decide that the other person communicating with them is not worth their time or effort. This is the ego at work. It's almost as if people are consciously choosing not to listen anymore.
If you engage in a conversation with anyone and you feel the sudden urge to not listen or pay attention to what is being said to you, regardless of validation/approval of your point of view or not, then be aware that this is your ego at work. Some people call it the monkey in you, others call it the child in you. The ego, aka the conditioned mind, will frame the subject communicating with you into an enemy. Not in the perspective of someone who might physically hurt you, though possible, but someone who is here to oppose you. As soon as your mind is convinced that you will be opposed, your defenses are up and you immediately discard or shift your attention away from the conversation.
This by itself, is the main reason why there is a lack of communication between many people around the world varying from politicians, companies, or even societies and cultures. Without communication, there will never be a genuine form of communication.
If you try to reach out for a solution for this issue, you will realize that there are many ways and means around it; however, it will always go down to your reality. And of course, you have to remember that MENTALITY is REALITY. If your reality is the kind that is easily shaken and stirred, then so is your mentality. It is a reflection of who you are from inside. Therefore, you are required to change your mindset when you converse with anyone.
The most effective way when dealing with your ego during a conversation is to tell yourself "I KNOW NOTHING". The term is disempowering. Not to you though, but to your ego. If you accept that you can receive information from people without judging it and assume during that moment that you are ready to be educated by any person on this planet, then your ego disappears, and hence you are able to listen attentively, learn, and exchange information. You are not required to agree, though you should admit that you do by putting your pride aside. Pride is only a different form of your ego.
"I KNOW NOTHING" does not imply that you are stupid, dumb, or uneducated. It is merely a tool which you can use to decondition your conditioned mind (ego) in order to receive information instead of block it out while you're under the mindset that no matter what the other side is trying to communicate to you is either wrong or against you.
It is extremely ironic that even the youngest of people are able to educate us nowadays and can receive so much information from every single person or thing which stimulates their knowledge. It's as if they are constantly digesting each and every piece of information that is manifested for or against them. I have always said that if you want to appreciate life, watch and observe children as they live their own. Why? Because they are so confident and disassociated from reality that they have created their own mental representations of that colourful life in their minds. Their mentalities project their realities onto the world which we live in. If you tell a child a story, watch their eyes as they open up wide, watch their ears as they respond to every single word you say, and notice their breathing as every out-breath defines their mental state which responds to your information. They are receiving information with no judgement whatsoever. Why? Because their minds are not entirely conditioned to think of you as someone who is opposing them. Which also explains why a baby will smile back at a stranger if the stranger smiles at them. This by itself is a beautiful response to stimuli.
Imagine how easy and smooth communication would be if we were to decondition our minds, as in defuse the ego out of our system, while we communicate with people. Imagine how you could walk out of an argument with the most confident smile and still be cool with the situation as if nothing had happened in the first place.
This is the essence of communication that I speak of. A notion that most people will not pay attention to.
"The force behind the ego's wanting creates "enemies", that is to say, reaction in the form of an opposing force equal in intensity. The stronger the ego, the stronger the sense of separateness between people. The only actions that do not cause opposing reactions are those that are aimed at the good of all. They are inclusive, not exclusive. they join; they don't separate."
This is a very good explanation as to how people lack the skill of communicating with each other. I'm talking about the one sided communication line in which people decide that the other person communicating with them is not worth their time or effort. This is the ego at work. It's almost as if people are consciously choosing not to listen anymore.
If you engage in a conversation with anyone and you feel the sudden urge to not listen or pay attention to what is being said to you, regardless of validation/approval of your point of view or not, then be aware that this is your ego at work. Some people call it the monkey in you, others call it the child in you. The ego, aka the conditioned mind, will frame the subject communicating with you into an enemy. Not in the perspective of someone who might physically hurt you, though possible, but someone who is here to oppose you. As soon as your mind is convinced that you will be opposed, your defenses are up and you immediately discard or shift your attention away from the conversation.
This by itself, is the main reason why there is a lack of communication between many people around the world varying from politicians, companies, or even societies and cultures. Without communication, there will never be a genuine form of communication.
If you try to reach out for a solution for this issue, you will realize that there are many ways and means around it; however, it will always go down to your reality. And of course, you have to remember that MENTALITY is REALITY. If your reality is the kind that is easily shaken and stirred, then so is your mentality. It is a reflection of who you are from inside. Therefore, you are required to change your mindset when you converse with anyone.
The most effective way when dealing with your ego during a conversation is to tell yourself "I KNOW NOTHING". The term is disempowering. Not to you though, but to your ego. If you accept that you can receive information from people without judging it and assume during that moment that you are ready to be educated by any person on this planet, then your ego disappears, and hence you are able to listen attentively, learn, and exchange information. You are not required to agree, though you should admit that you do by putting your pride aside. Pride is only a different form of your ego.
"I KNOW NOTHING" does not imply that you are stupid, dumb, or uneducated. It is merely a tool which you can use to decondition your conditioned mind (ego) in order to receive information instead of block it out while you're under the mindset that no matter what the other side is trying to communicate to you is either wrong or against you.
It is extremely ironic that even the youngest of people are able to educate us nowadays and can receive so much information from every single person or thing which stimulates their knowledge. It's as if they are constantly digesting each and every piece of information that is manifested for or against them. I have always said that if you want to appreciate life, watch and observe children as they live their own. Why? Because they are so confident and disassociated from reality that they have created their own mental representations of that colourful life in their minds. Their mentalities project their realities onto the world which we live in. If you tell a child a story, watch their eyes as they open up wide, watch their ears as they respond to every single word you say, and notice their breathing as every out-breath defines their mental state which responds to your information. They are receiving information with no judgement whatsoever. Why? Because their minds are not entirely conditioned to think of you as someone who is opposing them. Which also explains why a baby will smile back at a stranger if the stranger smiles at them. This by itself is a beautiful response to stimuli.
Imagine how easy and smooth communication would be if we were to decondition our minds, as in defuse the ego out of our system, while we communicate with people. Imagine how you could walk out of an argument with the most confident smile and still be cool with the situation as if nothing had happened in the first place.
This is the essence of communication that I speak of. A notion that most people will not pay attention to.
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